3 Tips to Shift Your Mindset from Survival to Allowing

One of the most limiting beliefs that play out in our day to day lives is that of ‘survival mode’. Now you may be saying, ‘I’m not living my life in survival mode’, but let’s take a deeper look at what that really means and see if you can recognize any patterns of survival mode that play out in your life.

Survival mode:

  • I have to do this otherwise I won’t get what I want
  • If I don’t take control of this situation, then things will turn out bad
  • I’m afraid that if my kid makes the wrong choice, his life will be difficult
  • I’m working hard now so my future will be better
  • I (or my kids) have to study harder, achieve more, be better so that I can get accepted into that college, or land that job in order to create a safe and secure future
  • Once I save more money, then I can slow down and enjoy life
  • There is not enough __________ (money, support, opportunities, jobs, experiences, time, etc.) for me to feel satisfied or to enjoy life now
  • I’ll invest the time in my life to do __________ once things get easier 

Where are you placing limitations on yourself and your life? All of the above are examples of a belief in lack and limitation, which cause you to live your life in survival mode. And this goes against the Universal Law of Allowing.

Where are you placing limitations on yourself and your life? All of the above are examples of a belief in lack and limitation, which cause you to live your life in survival mode. And this goes against the Universal Law of Allowing.

In this article, I provide 3 tips that will help shift your mindset from that of survival to one of allowing.

Beliefs of Unworthiness

For the majority of us, this is the number one reason we do not allow more success, abundance and happiness in our lives. We have bought into the belief and lie of our own unworthiness.

Does any of this sound familiar to you or your son/daugther? ‘I am not smart enough to achieve that’, ‘Other people do it better than me, so why will I be accepted or chosen for the job (college, team, etc.), ‘I can’t be happy with myself because I am ________ (lazy, too shy, too slow, not cool enough, not pretty enough, not smart enough, not rich enough, not funny enough, not liked enough).

These beliefs have been programmed into our minds as we have grown up looking outside of ourselves for validation and approval.

We have learned to believe what is acceptable through the media, our schooling, our peers, family traditions, society, and everyone else.

Here is a big tip: when you think a thought about yourself, if it feels heavy and constricting, it is a lie that you have bought into, if it feels light and expansive, it is your truth.

Work on challenging your limiting beliefs and creating new supportive beliefs that are in alignment with your desires and share those with your kids.

Have you bought into the lie of lack and limitation?

Our world has been programmed to live in lack, to believe that there is not enough and that we have to work hard for things or even fight for them in order to survive.

This lie has created a world living in survival mode. It has created poverty, war and suffering all over the globe. What we believe becomes our reality and since our world has been manipulated and programmed to believe that life is a struggle and that there is a limitation on what you can have, achieve and create, we have created that as our reality.

We were never taught the truth about the Law of Abundance. The truth is that we live in a Universe of abundance.

Just look to nature for the answers. Nature is abundant in every way unless man forces his way to destroy this abundance. When you learn to look at life from the perspective of abundance, you allow abundance to flow into your life. This is another mindset skill you can teach your children now to set them up for a life filled with abundance.

Again, we have been programmed to settle. Gratitude is NOT about accepting and being satisfied with having just enough and so we shall not dare to ask for more because if we do, we are considered greedy. Another lie!

When we allow ourselves to ask for something even better than we are living right now (from the place of feeling satisfied with where we are currently standing), when we focus on the abundance in our lives that exists all around us, and we work to change our beliefs of unworthiness to beliefs of acceptance and love of self, you will be living your life in alignment with the Universal Law of Allowing.

Teach your kids these laws now so they don’t grow up continuing the cycle of survival and struggle. You will be so happy you did and they will thank you for it for the rest of their abundant lives!

About the Author Julie K

Youth Empowerment Coach, Trainer and Mentor Julie Kleinhans works with parents, teachers, and youth practitioners by supporting them to empower the kids in their lives to be successful and embrace their own uniqueness. Get her FREE Guide for Parents and Teachers on What Every Kid Needs to Know to Be Empowered at SuccessfulKidsRevolution.com

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